Emotional Eating: Stopping the Compulsion to Binge or Overeat
My clients inspire me. Namaste. I acknowledge the teacher in you as you acknowledge the teacher in me. To make sure I was using the term “namaste” correctly, though I’ve been using it for years, just this moment I looked it up in Wikipedia. This meaning, how I think of namaste, wasn’t quite there, but almost, “the light in me sees the light in you,” attributed to Bridget Laureira and her experience with yoga. We are all reflections of the human experience which we share in ways we aren’t even aware of. And this is a beautiful aspect of being human, that given the smallest human exchange, we have the potential to expand, to grow, engendering wisdom.
What I’ve learned from my clients is the key, the very key, yes, the one that has seemed unattainable, it is the key to stopping the compulsion to binge or to keep eating beyond full. So here it is, here lies the coveted secret to stopping the madness:
It is the ability to extend love and tenderness to yourself.
That’s it. It is exactly what Geneen Roth teaches.
It is the ability to practice loving kindness toward yourself, daily, consistently. And yes, I understand it isn’t easy, nothing newly learned is. It is a practice of building awareness over time until eventually, guess what? You believe you are worthy of love and tenderness.
The next time you feel the urge to binge or overeat try this:
Sit down, away from the food.
Breathe slowly for a few minutes, feel your breath inhabit your body.
Then, engage in a loving dialogue with yourself. Sweetly, be curious about what is going on in the moment.
The immediate urge will begin to dissipate. This is because you are being loving to yourself, open, and generous. And once the urgency abates, you may be able to make different choices for yourself; nurturing choices, nourishing choices. Not always, but some of the time. And the more you practice, the chances of being loving next time increases.